The other thing I was saying was, before you're really ready to ask, you should try to act normal and calm. The calmer you act around him, the less agitated meetings will be, and the more... stable, it'll seem? I never told you, but I kinda had a similar problem from last August to this January, and it would have been much easier to deal with if I'd really asked them how they felt altogether and hadn't felt forced when I talked to them out of nervousness. Sorry if it doesn't help.
Ohh okay I see.
Yeah, I don’t really
See myself doing that anytime soon at least. But thank you for the advice, it’s really helpful!
What I'm saying is, if you ask how he feels about the situation and tell him what you feel, then you'll be spending a lot less time in stressful speculation than you could have. I know bringing stuff like that up is hard, but the fact is that if you do bring it up you end up with a chance. You get rejected, you feel bad for a while, but you'll recover. You get accepted, then you'll end up much happier. If you spend a long time waiting it's just making the decision harder. Cont. in next ask
hey meena, it'll be okay, i'm /guessing/ you're talking about the dude from december and all, in which case don't worry about it too much! i know crushes can be really obnoxious and everything but seriously, next time you see him just think about it, it won't make it any more awkward if you try to be normal, might make him more comfortable to be honest. you can talk about the stuff to him when you feel the need to, but in the meantime just chill, alright?
What do you mean by “talk[ing] about the stuff to him”?
I am tired of people implying that people posting that they’re upset is just them seeking attention. A lot of the times, no, they’re not! They just need to get it off their chest. But even when they ARE seeking attention, THERE’S A REASON FOR IT. It’s OKAY to need attention. It’s OKAY to need reassurance that you’re not a horrible human being who fucks everything up.
Acting like people who talk about how they’re feeling and how they hate themselves/are having a rough time/whatever is a bad thing creates a really awful stigma that leads to the people who do it second guessing themselves. Every time I post about being upset, it’s only after I’ve sat there for half an hour going ‘I shouldn’t post this but I need to talk to someone but everyone’s going to think I’m pathetic and whiny and looking for attention’ and that just feeds into my awful self-esteem and self-loathing.
Basically, it’s okay to need attention and reassurances when you’re upset and don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.
This year, these past few months… they’re the first time i wanted to go back and redo something
The first time ever because usually i just accept it and move on
But i cant this past 5 months or so i’ve just been filled with this huge hole of regret
First time ever
Hate it hate it hate it
On the internet, well, i don’t really regret a thingT
He only thing i would change is some of my friends’ dispositions toward themselves but i have no control over that
Empty empty empty i feel so empty why is this i don’t like it it’s at the point where i’m crying less at everything and i don’t like it not one bit
I wish i just redid that one action
I don’t think i’ll get another chance with him
I feel like i’m drifting apart from the group
It’s clear he’s not interested in me ,why cant’ i accept that
I still giggle at like everything he does, any jokes he makes
I feel dumb for feeling this way
I feel dumb for being human.
When they say that i’m useless, that i suck, that i’m worth less, that i’m dumber, are they really joking?
Why cant’ i stand up for myself? Is it because i’m hoping, deep deep down, they’re joking? And because of that i cant’ not take them jokingly?
Every time i try to say something, stand up for myself, it’s dismissed as nothing
Just because i’m a girl
No, just because i’m me
But when i don’t hang out with them
I don’t feel like i’m there at all
That table, my large group of friends… i don’t feel like a part of them anymore
Honestly, i don’t think i felt comfortable in a group since 5th grade.
Other than zach’s group of course but like i said i’m growing increasingly uncomfortable
Sometimes i wish i were a guy so i could be treated the same way in that group
They respect me being a girl but
Sometimes it’s just…??
But hey it’s just aloysius and daniel who’re making me feel bad
JR’s cool, irritating at times but cool because he doesn’t mean it, i know it for certain
James is chill too
Isai’s cool, asks for money a lot and i’m fairly sure he won’t pay me back but hey at least he’s starting to bring his on lunch now lol
Mark’s irritating but can be cool as long as he’s not taking my stuff
Zach is really rad
Tanner isn’t at school enough for me to tell really rofl he’s missed so much school it’s not funny